What Are Your Options When Having a Baby the Natural Way Doesn’t Work?

What Are Your Options When Having a Baby the Natural Way Doesn't Work?

It can be frustrating and even heartbreaking to desperately want to conceive a child and be unable to do so naturally. Many couples dream of raising a large, happy and healthy family together over the years, and a fertility issue can make it seemingly impossible to achieve your dreams. However, while getting pregnant the natural way may not be possible, there are alternatives to consider if you want to have a baby. These are some of the primary ways couples are having babies when a natural pregnancy is not a possibility.

Surrogacy

Through surrogacy, another woman will carry and deliver your child. This may be the biological child of the father, and an egg donor or the surrogate’s own egg may be used in some cases. In the event the mother’s eggs are healthy and the fertility issue relates to implantation, the biological child of both the mother and the father may be placed in the surrogate’s womb. There are legal issues associated with surrogacy, and the cost can be significant. However, when the mother’s own womb is not viable for carrying a healthy baby, this is a reasonable option to consider.

Fertility Medications

If a hormonal issue is causing the mother not to produce eggs, fertility medications can be administered. For example, clomiphene is one type of fertility hormone treatment that can help a woman to ovulate. Through this method, a biological child from both parents may be conceived. This treatment option can be expensive, and the side effects associated with taking hormones for several months or longer can be difficult to bear. However, the success rate for the use of this and other drugs may be as high as 80 percent or higher. Pregnancy is often achieved within a few months of starting this treatment.

In Vitro Fertilization

Another fertility treatment option to consider is in vitro fertilization. After all, the ivf success rate is pretty commendable. This treatment is most commonly used to assist with the actual fertilization of the mother’s egg by the father’s sperm. It involves harvesting multiple eggs from the woman’s ovaries as well as collecting sperm samples from the man. In a lab, several viable embryos are created. Several may be inserted into the woman’s uterus at an optimal time for conception, and one or more of the embryos may attach and create a viable pregnancy. Typically, the woman will need to take hormones before her eggs can be harvested. While the success rate with this type of treatment may be higher than 70 percent in some top clinics, the cost can make it prohibitive for many couples to attempt this treatment more than a couple of times.

Adoption

There are instances when none of these options are ideal for the couple. There are many healthy, happy babies that have already been brought into the world and given up for adoption. The two of you may consider adopting one or more children. These may be newborn babies, and you may be able to meet with the birth mother before the baby is born. They may also be older babies, toddlers or even children or teens. In some cases, the adoption process can be long, but this is a great way to make a difference in the lives of children whose biological parents cannot raise them.

It is understandably devastating to learn that you have fertility issues and may not be able to have a baby the natural way. However, there are many solutions available for bringing a baby or child into your home. Take time to explore each of these solutions in detail with your partner. By doing so, you may find that one or more options is ideal for your needs and warrants further research. This initial effort may set you on a wonderful path that enables you to become loving parents to one or more children in the years to come.

Hannah Whittenly is a freelance writer and mother of two from Sacramento, CA. She enjoys kayaking and reading books by the lake.