Six Ways Men can Deal with their Partner’s Pregnancy

Posted by Guest on August 30, 2010

Pregnancy is a very special time in any woman’s life and most men seem to enjoy that period too. For some others tough, dealing with a pregnant partner is not easy and some men cannot cope. Being blessed to have experienced that phase of life a few times already I would like to offer my advice to all males who are struggling.

Patience

This is the key factor and some men seem to do better than others. Impulsiveness and temperamental attitude is not going to help. You would need to be supportive and reasonable and ideally make no judgements. We don’t have the slightest idea what means to be pregnant not only physically but also emotionally and psychologically. Therefore, that period should not be the one to complain, argue and judge.

Comprehension

This is another important element and men who are able to comprehend their partner’s needs are more likely to be more helpful and supportive. A common mistake men do is comparing their partner’s behaviour with that of other pregnant women they know. This definitely is not going to help as each pregnancy is different as we are all different and hormones are affecting us in different ways. Typical questions such as why don’t you cook anymore, why do you sleep all the time, why are you crying for no reason, why are you neglecting the domestic tasks etc are a big no no!

Confidence

This is not the best period to start questioning and seek for emotional support. Being strong and confident is very essential as if you let your insecurities dominate you during pregnancy, the end results will be catastrophic for all parties. Knowing well your partner is very important so you can be confident that nothing has changed in the way she’s feeling towards you. It is just a different period in her life that her priorities and needs may have changed temporarily so it’s not the end of the world.

Calm

Being calm is another virtue that is going to help. A pregnant may present various mood swings but knowing what is actually causing them shouldn’t really bring any tension. Things will settle down sooner or later as long as one of the two remains calm. And the person to get that role is you as nothing suggests that things have dramatically changed for you since your partner got pregnant.

Be Proactive

There are many things your partner may not be able to do during her pregnancy. Being proactive and take the initiative to do things that have to be done is going to make things easier for both. Don’t take anything for granted and what used to happen before may slightly change. You need to be prepared to put more effort than before so it won’t hurt anyone of you have time to do anything to ease her with the daily tasks such as cooking, cleaning, shopping etc.

Indulge Her

As we all have heard pregnant women may come up with the more extraordinary wishes and desires. As long as they are within a reasonable context you should give in and satisfy her need. It may sound uncommon to wake up in the night and being asked to go and buy ice cream or being asked at 3am to wash those curtains with that “horrible” odour that you cannot smell at all. However, satisfying those cravings wherever possible is going to create that great family atmosphere even before the baby is around. Besides, that won’t be happening all the time so as long as you can actually offer what she wants, you should try to do it!

Modi loves kids and enjoys his time as a father of three. He works for a health spa as a health massage practitioner. In his spare time he practices web design which is his latest passion.

Recommended Reading Book for Parents of Premature Babies

Posted by kim on May 25, 2010

When my preemie twin daughters were in the NICU, my “bible” was The Premature Baby Book: A Parents Guide to Coping and Caring in the First Years by Helen Harrison and Ann Kositsky. While it was originally published in 1983, most of the information was still relevant in 1994. In fact, between my two preemie twins, they had almost every complication (ie Respiratory Distress Syndrome, PDA (heart murmurs), central line infections, retinopathy of prematurity (ROP) and Necrotizing Enterocolitis (NEC), etc.) that the book covered.

Since that book is now hard to come by, and I’m not giving up my copy (it stays in my remembrance tub), I frequently get asked what book do I recommend? After some research, I suggest the top selling book in the appropriate category on Amazon: Preemies: The Essential Guide for Parents of Premature Babies by Dana Wechsler Linden, Emma Trenti Paroli and Mia Wechsler Doron M.D.

Linden and Paroli are actually mothers who met in the hospital when their preemies were born, and Doron is a neonatologist who all put together this comprehensive guidebook for parents of premature babies. Order your own copy from Amazon.com.

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Pregnancy questions and answers for dummy partners

Posted by Guest on May 4, 2010

Being pregnant is not something easy to deal with, especially if the couple hasn’t gone through that ever before. The changes that take place during those nine months on the woman’s body are so many and intense that it is almost impossible for us men to understand. After I experienced my girlfriend’s first pregnancy I decided to write some tips for other guys who will go through that period for the first time and they may have the very same questions as I did.

Why does she sleep all the time?

It’s absolutely normal and nothing to worry about. It is related to those changes taking place which result in exhaustion and fatigue so getting some good sleep is very essential.

Why doesn’t she cook anymore?

It’s not because she doesn’t want to but probably because she can’t stand the smells in the kitchen. An increased sensitivity to particular odors is very common although it varies from woman to woman but the general rule is that they don’t want to be in an environment that makes them feel sick. Normally the bedroom is the place where they will be hanging out the most.

Why has she changed her eating habits?

During pregnancy the relationship with the food changes according to what the hormones mandate. Food she used to like can make her sick, or food she used to hate can be the one she likes the most.

Why doesn’t she have dinner with me anymore?

Again, this is not because she doesn’t like you but because either on that particular moment the thought of having food makes her sick or just because she’s really comfortable where she is and she doesn’t want to move at all. Being in an environment with strong odors is what she’s trying to avoid, not you.

Why is she crying for no reason?

Again, nothing to worry about as it is another side effect caused by the hormones. Just try to be supportive and it should all go away but if it doesn’t you don’t need to panic or think she’s nuts.

Why isn’t she going out anymore?

This is a complex one but the general idea lies behind feeling safe. Because nausea and sickness can occur at any time, being at home gives her a sense of security and she can be more relaxed. Therefore, do not insist if she doesn’t want to go out. After having birth she will do it anyway, with or without you.

Why is she neglecting domestic tasks?

This depends on her personality but many guys complain about it. I think that it is a matter of prioritization. The number one priority during that time is the baby and the way she feels, therefore she will do anything that makes her feel better and ease the pregnancy. Domestic tasks don’t fall into that so we may have to do a bit more than usually.

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